Why am I still crying?

Grief doesn’t end.

Yesterday, I had two different clients sit across from me both asking a version of the same question:

“Is this normal?”

One, a father of a 40 year old young woman, just eight months after the sudden and unexpected death their only child.

She was “full of life”, “a doctor”, “their reason for everything”

“One moment she was living and the next, gone”

The other, a daughter who was the sole care provider for her mother for twelve years.

She watched dementia steal away the woman she loved.

Four years later the client said “why am I still crying? This can’t be normal”.

Both were worried they were “still grieving too much.”

But here’s the truth:

Grief is not something we move on from.

It is something we learn to carry.

Because grief is not just about loss;

it is about love.

And love doesn’t have an expiration date.

So why do you still cry?

Because you still love.

Because the bond is still there.

Because loss changed your life; but it didn’t erase your connection.

Grief may change shape over time.

It may soften.

It may come in waves instead of constant intensity.

But it does not disappear.

We never move on.

We move forward…

learning how to live again while carrying both love and loss.

If you’ve ever wondered if your grief is “too much” or lasting “too long,”

you’re not broken.

You’re grieving.

And your grief deserves to be companioned, not rushed.

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