Grieving what is ahead: Anticipatory Grief

Yesterday, my son, who also serves as my office manager, answered a phone call from a grandmother whose young grandson had drowned over the weekend.

One of the things I admire most about him is his ability to connect with people from the very first conversation.

He has a remarkable gift for helping callers feel heard, calming fear and uncertainty, and creating a sense of safety before they ever walk through my office door.

This call stayed with him.

Afterward, he told me that the grandmother was the same age as me.

In that moment, something shifted.

For the first time, he truly realized that his parents are aging.

A wave of grief washed over him unlike anything he had experienced before.

Grief that I won’t be here forever.

Grief that life can change in a single moment.

Grief that one day, the relationship we’ve always known will come to an end.

This is grief too.

Not grief after a death, but grief in the realization that life is constantly changing.

The awareness that our parents are getting older.

The recognition that nothing stays the same forever.

The mourning of a future loss that has not yet occurred.

Grief isn’t reserved for funerals. It quietly weaves itself through the transitions, realizations, and changes that shape our lives.

If you’ve ever caught yourself looking at your parents and suddenly realizing they won’t always be here… if you’ve watched your children grow and grieved the little people they used to be… if you’ve felt the ache of time moving faster than you expected…

You’re not alone.

It’s okay not to be okay with those realizations.

The goal isn’t to avoid grief. It’s to learn how to carry it with compassion, courage, and love.

Because grief finds its way into every facet of our lives.

And when we learn to carry it, we also learn how to live again.

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